What's On Your Sex Menu?
Updated: Oct 2
Use this simple exercise to increase your pathways to pleasure.
Do you know what your partner really wants … sexually speaking?
A favorite quote that I use in my book Love in the Time of Corona is from playwright Lillian Hellman. She said: “People change and forget to tell each other.”
It’s true … I’ve seen many couples whose pathways of arousal have shifted over the years. But so often they haven’t taken time to talk to each other about how their tastes have evolved. Perhaps now would be a good time for you and your partner to update each other about your sexual likes and dislikes.
That’s the idea behind my Sex Menu Exercise from Chapter One of my book.
You start with a general list of various sexual activities, which could include everything from gentle kissing and caressing all the way to spanking, threesomes, or more.
Each partner marks the items on the list with a Yes, No, or Maybe, indicating their level of interest in being on the giving end or on the receiving end of each activity.
Then, compare your answers.
This is a great way to validate how well you know your partner. It might also reveal some surprise differences, and you just may find some new activities that each of you is interested in trying. Doesn’t that sound like fun?
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